mediation, violence against women and girls and gender roles in Plateau state

Between 13th and 16th August, the Nigeria Stability and Reconciliation Programme held training in Jos in Plateau state. The first 2 days was a training of trainers session for 20 participants. On Thursday, 20 young people joined us and our trainers had a chance to put their training into action.

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    Am in Jos now for mediation training for Trainers organised by National Stability and Recounciliation Program Nigeria @NSRP
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    It can be amazing when we take time to share the meaning of the names we bear…names are powerful!! @NSRProgramme #Mediation Training!
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    @Smaguire12 talks about equality of all persons and the place of respect.@NSRProgramme
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    NSRP supports initiatives aimed at better management of conflict and reduction of the impact of violent conflict in Nigeria.
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    Talking about stereotypes and prejudice. People with disabilities seen as not being able to do anything. This makes us angry. #nsrp
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    I am an Islamic teacher – people think I train terrorists/ jihadis. I am the one to tell you who I am am, not the other way around. #nsrp
     
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    .@ibeabuchiii talks about perceptions of not seeing disabled women as sexual beings and that they are more vulnerable to rape #nsrp
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    #Communication is vital for #Conflict prevention-@NSRPProgramme on #Mediation training
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    Working closely w/#youth is vital for #Conflict prevention in #Communities-@NSRPProgramme training on #Mediation
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    Now talking about negotiating land use between farmers and pastoralists in the Plateau and potential for conflict #nsrp
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    For Fulani man, anything green belongs to animals – doesn’t go down well with farmers! Says Amina re pastoralists/ farmers dispute #nsrp
  12. Just got a mentee @NSRProgramme on #Mediation….connection has been amazing! @ChitraNagarajan pic.twitter.com/TeNnxBvx10
     
  13. We watched the amazing Daughters of the Niger Delta: http://www.daughtersofthenigerdelta.org/
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    1 out of 7 children in Niger #delta estimated to die before age of five – far outnumber casualties of reported violence & kidnappings #nsrp
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    Maternal mortality rate in the core Niger #Delta is the second highest in the world #nsrp
  16. A participant @NSRProgramme facilitating a session..well done #nsrp for including persons w/ #Disabilities!! pic.twitter.com/j9Idn1zRok
     
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    Women most affected as do river fishing & men do ocean fishing and rivers are more polluted than oceans #delta #nsrp
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    Nigeria flares more natural gas than any other country – toxic particles carried and fall as rainwater #delta #nsrp
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    Women have to alternate livelihoods as can no longer fish b/c pollution; instead buy imported fish to sell – less sustainable #nsrp #delta
     
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    Now hearing of woman who got all As at university but got 3rd class degree b/c wouldn’t sleep w lecturer – now can’t find job #nsrp #delta
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    Since 1960s and first extraction, more than 3x oil spilt in #delta than that spilt into Gulf of Mexico in 2010 #nsrp
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    If a woman at uni tells me her lecturer is sexually harassing her, I advise her to leave – b/c you can’t fight; nobody listens #nsrp #delta
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    Cash crops eg yam are easier to produce than labour intensive ones eg cassava but women don’t have start up capital to grow #nsrp #delta
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    Most women not able to build up savings so little to fall back upon if lose husbands & property allocated to them by tradition #nsrp #delta
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    Only very few men will go far in assisting women – want to sit at the table & be served & wait for wife or kids to clear plates #nsrp #delta
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    Why can men whose wife dies marry & woman whose husband dies not marry? have to leave all children & money if you want to marry #nsrp #delta
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    Women have not been part of decision making in communities – men sit there and make all the decisions #nsrp #delta
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    If come together to prioritise needs, women want healthcare & water but men want buildings that give aesthetic beauty #nsrp #delta
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    Fragile peace will not be sustainable without protecting people’s right to food, water and healthy environment #nsrp #delta
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    Women gather and go to chiefs and pastors to ask them to do something about widowhood rites so we can get our freedom #nsrp #delta
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    Nothing is done about sexual harassment & since nobody does anything to discipline, nobody (girls) wants to learn #nsrp #delta
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    @chitranagarajan I agree with u, sexual harrasment is on the increase in our communities and so is the silence. #nsrp #delta
  33. What’s the cause of women’s oppression? asks the facilitator <wow, big question #patriarchy #poverty #nsrp #delta pic.twitter.com/2grO5J8UEo
     
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    So, my #nsrp #delta tweets are of event that is part of my work at @nsrprogramme – have been doing mediation life skills training all week
  35. We then go on to talking about what is expected of girls/ young women and boys/ young men
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    @ChitraNagarajan is facilitating a session on societal roles and perceptions in communities @NSRProgramme #Mediation training in #Jos
     
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    Being a boy in Plateau – you are expected to provide security and defend the family and loved ones, be strong physically #nsrp
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    Boys in Plateau are expected to be responsible, educated, hard working and protect the family #nsrp
     
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    Boy in plateau state thinks he is the leader of the house and can do whatever he wants says one of our young girls #nsrp
  40. Boys in Plateau work but tend to be quite wasteful with money – drink etc > talking about masculinities #nsrp pic.twitter.com/38qBsG57lR
     
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    Being a boy in Plateau mean that you go to school more than girls as their lives are curtailed as seen as going to another house #nsrp
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    Women w/ disabilities have to rely on caregivers and often when caregivers get angry, they threaten to abandon them says @ibeabuchiii #nsrp
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    Girls expected to be fragile, home-makers, supposed to be at home crying & praying to meet guys, a sex machine, denied right to edu #nsrp
  44. War is cause of disability, affects us greatly. We can contribute to its resolution but overlooked says Grace #nsrp pic.twitter.com/z2in7qOBQG
     
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    #women w/#Disabilities are often physically less capable of defending themselves in cases of #Violence and #rape @UNWomenWatch @UN_Women
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    Talking about women with hearing difficulties not able to hear dangers around them when they go to the stream to get water #nsrp
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    #Violence against #women w/ #Disabilities has similiarities with violence against other women bt has unique dimensions as well @UNWomenWatch
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    Don’t look at your 16 yo daughter as 3 yo you are taking to the park – says attendee after hearing story of girl abused by boyfriend #nsrp
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    #women w/#Disabilities usually have less #access to information about how to protect themselves against#Violence and #rape@UNWomenWatch
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    Talking about barter system at IDP camps whereby disabled women are forced to have sex in return for being helped #nsrp
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    More vulnerable women, more likely to experience violence & less likely to be helped – who listens to girl w/ mental health issues? #nsrp
  52. Wow, me & @smaguire12 are blown away by @ibeabuchiii – we have found a superb gender trainer #nsrp pic.twitter.com/PxrCIbJM9c
     
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    Talking about importance of realising correlation between women’s ability to participate in peacebuilding & violence they experience #nsrp
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    #women can play important roles in conflict resolution.They need space, Visibility and space for action-@NSRProgramme #Mediation training
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    In 2013, we can sit together in a mixed group and talk re HIV, she was wounded in her vagina & domestic violence. That is progress #nsrp
     
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    The ongoing#Mediation training organised by @NSRprogramme has provided platform for networking & action.
  57. Now talking about different forms of gender based violence against women #nsrp #vaw pic.twitter.com/VqbTf3yPQK
     
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    To break the silence on #vaw, need to create awareness, involve women in decision making, men need to challenge other men #nsrp
  59. Young people deep in discussion with mentors of case studies on #vaw #nsrp instagram.com/p/dEj2kDTZnu/
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    ‘When you throw stone in market, don’t know whose head it will fall on’ – Hausa saying used to explain why ppl should work together #nsrp
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    #youths help to build bridges across communities, helping address the root causes and outcomes of insecurity @NSRProgramme
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    #youths are on the frontline of most #Conflicts, making them vital stakeholders in #peacebuilding efforts @NSRProgramme
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    There is a new generation of #Peace builders emerging from #Nigeria;they are raising their voices & making impacts daily @NSRProgramme
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    So proud of our young trainees on NSRP mediation course – youth says he was perpetrator but now knows he must stop abusing girls.

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